Having Heart Broken is one of the hardest part in our life, we cannot tell when it’s going to happen but it will bound to happen. We will go through a lot of things during the process of the healing of broken heart. First process will be moving on, that will be slowly accepting the fact that the two of you is already over, it’s not easy especially for first love because the feeling is new and you don’t know how to deal with it yet. You will feel depress, lonely and you cannot avoid asking yourself, “why life is so unfair?” Life is not really fair and it will never be. We just have to accept things that come in our life and learn from it. It’s really hard to move on, especially if you had given everything to him. But it’s still not enough. There will be times that you want to hate yourself because you loved him or you regret the times that you did not do those things that you should have done but honestly it will not really help if you think that way. Always remember, you had your heart broken for a reason and think about that reason to help you accept that it’s the end for the both of you. Everything was already said and done so there’s no reason for you to blame yourself or the other person. And we can never turn back the time so there’s no sense for dwelling in the past anymore.
You can start moving on by crying, confiding in a friend or by giving yourself enough space to feel the absence of the person in your heart or by giving yourself time to think about what happened. Collect your thoughts and try to think about the good things the experience gave you. Never ever force yourself to forget the person because it will only make you miss him/her. Healing a broken heart takes time and will undergo a process, it’s not a shirt that can be dried by overnight so don’t rush things. If it helps to burn all the things that reminds you of the person, go and burn it. Just always think that someone much better will come and will make you happy again, just be patient, have faith and everything else will follow. Try to be as optimistic as you can because it will help you clear your mind and you can only think of positive thoughts. And always smile, as what they say, smiling is the first step of healing. After you have moved on, you need now to let go. Letting go is one of the most important thing to do, some people say that moving on is enough to recover from a heart-ache, but it’s not actually correct. You cannot say you have moved on if you haven’t let go of everything, if you will not let go, chances are you will still hope, wish or work hard to get back to the relationship and risk getting hurt again. You have to let go of the expectations, the hopes, the feelings and the longings that you have w/ the person so that you can start again when someone new comes. Again, I know letting go is very damn hard, but once you get there, you can breathe easy. Some people learn to let go after few months of moving on but some unlucky people have learn to do it after a couple of years. It will take all your effort and strength to get over everything, but trust me; it will be much harder if you do it alone, depending on someone will make things a little easy if you seek or ask for a friend some good advise or if not, just by having people around you will help ease the pains that your feeling. After you have learn to move on and let go of everything, you will find peace in your heart and you will be brave enough to face a new chapter in your life that’s waiting for you to unravel. Always remember to pray and to think God is here for you all the time. You have also to remember that you’re not alone in this world who experience that, there are other people there who had been there but they survived, so you can do it also. Be strong and be a fighter. Things will not work by themselves if you will not take a first step. Move on and let go so you will not be trapped by your past and be haunted by it.
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